"ریشه‌ی رنج، وابستگی است."

The main idea here is that clinging too tightly to things—whether they’re objects, people, or even ideas—leads to pain. When we become overly attached, we set ourselves up for disappointment because everything in life is impermanent. Things change, people leave, and situations evolve. If our happiness is tied to these unstable elements, we’re bound to suffer when they inevitably shift.

Historically, this notion comes from Buddhist teachings. Siddhartha Gautama, the Buddha, emphasized that suffering (or dukkha) is a fundamental part of human existence. He taught that by letting go of our attachments, we can achieve a state of peace and contentment, known as Nirvana. This idea has resonated through centuries and across cultures, influencing countless philosophies and practices.

Let’s take a real-life example to see this in action. Imagine you’ve just bought a brand new car. It’s your pride and joy. You wash it every weekend, you park it at the far end of parking lots to avoid dings, and you get a little thrill every time you see it shine in the sun. But then, one day, someone keys it. Suddenly, your perfect car isn’t so perfect anymore. The happiness you derived from that car is now overshadowed by frustration and anger. That’s attachment causing suffering. If you had enjoyed the car without becoming overly attached to its pristine condition, the scratch, while annoying, wouldn’t have had the same emotional impact.

So, how can you apply this wisdom in your own life? Start paying attention to where you're overly attached. Is it your job, a relationship, a material possession, or maybe even an idea of how things should be? Practice appreciating these things without clinging to them. Meditation can be a great tool for this. It helps you observe your thoughts and feelings without getting swept away by them. Also, try to embrace change. Easier said than done, right? But if you can start seeing change as a natural part of life rather than a threat, you’ll find it easier to let go.

Picture this: You’re at a coffee shop with a friend, sipping on your favorite latte. You start talking about your dream job—the one you’ve been working towards for years. You’ve got a clear image in your head about what it’s gonna be like. But what if it doesn’t turn out the way you expect? What if, despite all your efforts, you don’t get it? Or you do, but it’s not what you imagined? If your happiness is tied up in that one outcome, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. But if you can enjoy the journey—learning new skills, meeting new people, growing as a person—then no matter what happens, you’ve gained something valuable.

Think about a surfer riding a wave. They don’t cling to the water because they know it’s constantly moving. They ride it, enjoying the flow, knowing that the wave will eventually end and another will come along. That’s how we should handle life. Ride the waves, don’t cling to them.

By letting go of attachment, you open yourself up to a more fluid, adaptable way of living. You’re less likely to be thrown off course by life’s inevitable ups and downs. And in the end, isn’t that a more peaceful way to live?